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 by George Hartwell M.Sc.

Ways to Pray
Understand yourself
Marriage and Silent Divorce
How to do Listening Prayer
12 Inner Healing Prayer encounters

 

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Little Known Ways to Pray -   and overcome attacks, illness and difficulties

1. Put it on the Altar
2. Job Interview Prayer
3. Safe Prayers of Protection
4.  Listen to God Life-style
5. Faith of the Heart
6. How to pray for difficult people
7. How to pray in a personal crisis
8. How to pray for physical Healing
9. How to break Curses
10. Spiritual Warfare
The unhealthy practices of spiritual mapping, 'binding' principalities and powers is a probable cause of needless sickness, broken relationships, marriage breakdown, confusion, poverty, accidents, etc.  If you do not want to lose your natural 'hidden in Christ' state by ignorant and arrogant prayer practices check out spiritual warfare, prayer guidelines and better practices out.

Prayer and Psychotherapy

 

How to understand yourself?

Nervous Breakdown
Emotional breakdown.

People Pleasing
1. People pleasing and love addiction
2. People pleasing and losing out on love
3. People pleasing - sacrificing love
4. People Pleasing - The Program and the Pit

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

High Performance Fear
Overcoming Fear
Social Anxiety
Desensitization of Fear

Anger Management 


Anxiety and Depression

Gambling Addictions

Legalism, Depression and Religious Performance

Theophostic Counselling

 

Marriage & Silent Divorce

  1. 12 ways to Strengthen your Marriage

  2. 7 Types of Intimacy Avoiders
  3. Bonding, Marriage and Silent Divorce
  4. Bonding focused couple therapy
  5. Silent Divorce
  6. Family systems
  7. Secrets of evil families

Do You recognize the Personality Types that make marriages difficult?

Avoidant Personality and Silent Divorce

 

 

 

 

 

How to do Listening Prayer Therapy

Listening Prayer Therapy for inner and emotional healing - theory and practice

Theory
Traumatic Memories - the place of listening prayer in healing of trauma and traumatic beliefs.
Three Generations of Inner Healing - historical perspective on inner healing.
Patrick Celtic Christianity - how effective inner healing prayer fits the model.

Practice - How to Pray
Grief and Comfort - how to pray during times of grief, loss, death and bereavement.
Releasing Burdens - an example of visual prayer in inner healing.
Traumatic Memories - the place of listening prayer in healing of memories - what we learned from TheoPhostic.
Cleanse the Temple - how a powerful Biblical image can be used to pray about idolatry.
Overcoming Fear
Flexibility
Trauma and Parenting
Deliverance from demonic presence

 

 

Guide to Life and Marriage Transformation

 

12 Prayer encounters for inner and emotional healing

History of inner healing

How to Pray for Inner Healing
1 Put it on the Altar
2 Grief and Comfort
3 Anger, Hate, Forgiveness, Love
4 Letter to God
5 Burden Exchange
6 Identity Consolidation
7 Cleanse the Temple
8 Peace with Heaven
9 Healing of Trauma
10 Listening Prayer for Dreams
11 The Children's Garden
12 Listening Prayer Journal

 

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How to be more Productive

How to Plan Projects

How to be More Productive

How to do a Mission Statement

How to make Complex Decisions

Here is a Quick Way to Organize Your Thoughts

Accountability Questions Basic questions we can ask each other in an accountability group.

 

Life Transformation 

Guide to Life Transformation - an extensive introduction to prayer therapy for emotional issues

How to Pray for Life Transformation

Releasing Burdens
Releasing Anger
Peace With Heaven
Grief and Mourning
Recent Trauma
Dreams for Inner Healing
The Broken Heart Prayer

Emotional Development - Our Growth Stages 

What Happens in Inner Healing?
How to Pray included in each
Freedom from Shame - Basic Stage
Life Passion - 2nd Stage
Spontaneity - 3rd Stage
Real Identity - 4th Stage
Issues of Self Confidence - 5th
Fear of Receiving - 6th Stage

The Journey by Brandon Bays

Journey and Life Transformation Therapy

Journey and Identity Transformation

Life Transformation Therapy using 'Journey'

 

Heal My Life 101 

10 Healing Encounters
(Making Relationships Better)

1. Put it on the Altar
2 Right to be Right
3 King of the Castle (Need for Power)
4 'Here comes the judge!'
5 Self Image
6 Saviour no more
7. Autonomous Mind
8 Partner on a Pedestal
9 Release Expectations 
10. Cut Umbilical Cords

 

Heal My Life 101
10 counsellor Guidelines 

  1. 7 components of the Heal My Life Prayer Encounter

  2. Role of Counselor
  3. Invocation
  4. Goal Clarification
  5. Focus of the Session
  6. Jesus Proclamation
  7. Confession / forgiveness
  8. Prayer Therapy Options
  9. Picture Prayer
  10. Follow Up
  11. Identity Affirmation

 

 

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© 2003 Rights to commercial publication reserved by George Hartwell. Permission granted to copy for non-commercial personal, academic, web site or ministry use with appropriate credit including web site link to www.HealMyLife.com. The above articles is the output of the last three years from the earliest formulation of the prayer encounters that have become identified as Listening Prayer Therapy up to the present. Most were presented at a lectures, seminars or retreats. Almost all have been tested in group use or in individual therapy sessions. Listening Prayer Therapy presented here means the principles and procedures of Christian inner healing developed by George Hartwell M.Sc. of Agape Christian Counselling, Toronto, Ontario. Sometimes the term "inner healing" is used which means the experience of healing of core (inner) emotional issues by an encounter with God's truth and presence. Sometimes the term "Prayer Encounter" is used which is a description of the methods  I use for life transformation.

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Guide to Life Transformation

© 2005, George Hartwell, www.HealMyLife.com, (416) 234-1850

 

What is the basis, the powerful principle that is the foundation of inner healing and life transformation? The number one principle is this: "An encounter with God heals our lives."

What makes new forms of inner healing and life transformation more precise and effective than previous methods? Three principles have been discovered that are used in 'generation three' of inner healing:

1.That the Holy Spirit can guide us to the precise point to intervene with maximum impact. For example, the Holy Spirit can bring a specific memory to recall.

2.That healing of a traumatic memory needs to deal with beliefs lodged in and behind the negative feelings in specific memories. The Holy Spirit will help us to recall what we believed in the hurtful event. An experienced interviewer will search out all of the beliefs resident in a specific memory and the feelings experienced around that memory.

3.Listening Prayer - that is listening for God's truth - enables the Holy Spirit to send God's (Rhema) Word to us. This is the living, active, penetrating, powerful "God's very Word spoken to me." This Word countermands, nullifies, erase, overcomes the power of the beliefs resident in the memory and replaces them with God's word, attitude (including forgiveness) and perspective.

In Life Transformation Therapy an encounter with God brings healing sometimes by focusing God's living Word on specific beliefs in specific memories uncovered by the Holy Spirit. Given the strategic advantage of guidance to the best memory, uncovering key beliefs and the power of God's living word to create faith and eliminate wrong belief, it is not surprising that these methods are safe, fast, effective and result in enduring life healing. In comparison with the best that secular science has to offer, these Life Transformation methods are safer, faster, and more effective. Results endure longer.

 

The methods of third generation inner healing and life transformation are no secret. There use is not limited to trained professionals. They can be used with groups and well as individuals. You can try them safely with yourself, your children or friends.

Heal My Life Prayer Encounters

Heal My Life Prayer Encounters are samples of how to do business with God. When you do them you allow God to heal your life.

Benefits to you of using Heal My Life Prayer Encounters:

qNew life, energy, optimism.

qImproved relationships.

qA positive personality shift.

qAbility to enjoy marital intimacy.

qOpenness to real community.

Communication with God as a life style.

A fruitful Christian life.

Examples of Heal My Life Prayer Encounters 

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1 Put it on the Altar.

The "Put it on the Altar" prayer encounter aallows you to offer people, situations and things to God. It allows God to be involved, bless and receive what we offer. The result is often deep peace, relief of burdens, and freedom from worry.

The scene we invoke, the picture we imagine, is based on the Biblical practice of making sacrifices to God on an altar. Put burdens, sacrificial service, worries, loved ones, work, and one's marriage on your imagined altar. Watch, listen and feel. What do you experience?

When we lay something on the altar, and picture ourselves doing it, we often experience a heartfelt release of control and deep peace as we let God have control.

Do this with a friend when they express their problems to you. Are you tired, burdened, heavy hearted with working it all out yourself? This is a great first step toward letting God take charge of your marriage, relationships, children, work or finances.

You not only can feel lighter but you have given God the right to move, to heal, to save, to deliver, to counsel, to comfort and to enhance communication.

 

2 Self Image 

The "Self Image Prayer Encounter" allows us and God to pull down the "Idol" we have made of ourselves. God, we know, has little tolerance of idolatry. God cannot bless you and your relationships, at least not fully, until it stops being "All About Me."

I've discovered that God acts to shake down our idols. When God acts we are humbled. We (like king N. in the O.T.) eat grass.

Restoration requires a change of heart, a dying to "Self-Image" so that it is not 'All about me.' In this prayer encounter: confess idolatry, submit the self-image idol to destruction, and picture it happening. I notice that things go much better when we die to our need for (worship) constant acknowledgement, affirmation, and positive feedback.

 

 

3 King of the Castle 

The right to be lord, "king of the castle," 'top dog,' the one with the most control, power or say is laid down in this prayer encounter. Control, (need for dominance) usually out of fear, destroys love; just as perfect love casts out fear. Love does not 'Lord it over the other.' Prayer involves confession and picturing getting out of the 'top dog' position.

 

4 "Here comes the Judge"

 In this prayer encounter one steps out of the role of Judge, giving up the right to judge others, to condemn, accuse, label and rail at their weaknesses. This resigning as Judge comes out of the recognition that when we judge we usurp God's right to be Judge. A repeat of the scene is necessary to admit and deal with judging ourselves.

 

5 Right to be right.

One of our unhealthy patterns is being morally superior. This may be manifested as always getting the last word in every argument, or flaunting superiority in knowledge, skill, memory, etc. The prayer involves confession, forgiveness and picturing the prayer.

6 Saviour No More.

A prayer encounter for stepping out of the role of family Saviour - the one who sacrifices to keep peace, who diminishes their own needs and focuses on others to 'keep it all together.' It is unhealthy, unbalanced and, ultimately idolatry to be stuck in the role of "Family Saviour." It eats away at our relationship with God, intimacy, community and our own physical and emotional health. Instead of waiting for an emotional breakdown one can confess, receive forgiveness and picture stepping out of this role.

 

7. Autonomous Mind

The mind becomes an idol when intellect is our source of security and our way of staying in control of life. The analyst, the thinker, the answer man, the 'know it all' often trusts mind over God; relies on self. This independence from God (autonomy) could be called sin. This means something is unhealthy, out of balance. There might be the pride that comes before a fall.

 

8 Partner on a Pedestal.

It is unhealthy for you or your partner, pastor, leader to see them as a god (goddess.) We know God has zero tolerance of idolatry and wants proper place in our lives but do we realize that we put another under an intolerable burden if they are to meet all our needs. Frustration and anger; hurt and disappointment; withdrawal and disconnection; obsession with the other; pleasing the other (with loss of our own true identity) are some of the results. Often this goes back to a history of disappointment with a parent that left our inner Child yearning and hoping for our parent's approval, love, acknowledgement or faithfulness (non-abandonment).

 

9 Release Expectations

This prayer encounter is way to tackle the problem that we are expecting of our partner only things that God can provide. The purpose of the prayer is to refocus on God as our primary source.

 

10. Cut Umbilical Cords

A relationship involves both healthy and unhealthy holds, attachments and control mechanisms. Cutting unhealthy bonds, cords and attachments is freeing. It frees us from unhealthy relationship patterns and pressures. In the freedom from unhealthy ties (picture spiritual umbilical cords) a healthier more vibrant relationship can grow.

 

 

 

 

Deliverance Prayer Encounters

 

Prayer Encounters in Listening Prayer Therapy effect deliverance from evil while minimizing the attention given to darkness. Jesus is invited to do the deliverance and He does. Simple. Gentle. Clean. Quiet. Beautiful. Glorious.

 

11. Jesus steps in between

On learning that a wrong spirit is present because of a connection with another person, invite the person to picture the two persons and then to ask Jesus to step in between.

 

12. Replace the wrong spirit with Jesus' Life

When doing the healing of memories one first invites Jesus Truth to replace the negative belief. If there remains a strong negative feeling in the memory invite Jesus as the Life to replace that feeling.

 

13. House Cleaning

Given that  'Jesus stands at the door and knocks' invite Him in and ask Him to clean up the house. Let Him do it. Designate a room filled with the wrong feeling and ask Jesus to clean it up.

 

Idolatry Prayer Encounters

 

A good way to increase communication with God is to pull down idols - those things that get in the place of God in our life. Some of the above can be seen in terms of pulling down idols: "Autonomous Mind," "Self Image," "Saviour of the Marriage," Partner on the Pedestal" and "Here Comes the Judge."

 

14. People Pleaser

The 'People Pleaser' fears people. That is to say people define how I act, what is right and who I am. People are my focus and the source of my hope for love and affirmation. It might be wise to die to the 'People Pleaser' identity and find out what one's identity in Christ is.

 

15. Cleanse the Temple

One image of the idol is some object we worship. This person or object has been invited or allowed into the sacred space within that is reserved for God. Since Jesus cleansed the Temple we know He can cleanse the temple within of those idols that interfere with our knowing and worship God in spirit and in truth.

 

Inner Child Work

Our inner person can be called our inner man, our inner child, our heart or our human spirit. Language cannot be more precise when we speak of inner truths. It is not a case of right or wrong but of communicating as clearly as we can.

16. Broken Heart

When a person has a broken heart invite them to put their heart in Jesus' hands and leave it there. He can mend our broken hearts. He can help keep us from hardened hearts.

 

17. The Safe Place

Imagine a place where you feel safe to meet with Jesus. For some it is a nature setting: a beach, a garden or a field. Some need a special sphere that they can go into with Jesus to be safe. For meetings of our little child (of different age levels) it helps to have a designated safe place. Sometimes just going there to be there with Jesus, to play or to talk is a great healing experience.

 

18. Play Time with Jesus

Children need a chance to play. In 'Inner Child Work' that often means taking time to play with Jesus. Jesus can use these times to lead our child into needed healing experiences or just needed fun times. This lets our inner child become comfortable with Jesus, with ourselves and with playfulness.

 

19. Grief and Comfort

Children that have been deeply wounded or shocked need comfort. This means time in the arms of Jesus the Comforter. Do not rush this prayer encounter. Leave the child in Jesus arms for ongoing comfort between sessions. It heals; strengthens and bonds one to Jesus.

 

20. Healing Dreams and Memories

The Holy Spirit can bring to recall key memories that need to be dealt with. A good starting place is the strongest feeling in a dream, on in one' life, or that occurs just before a problem behaviour. Discover the feelings and thinking resident in the memory. Invite Jesus for His truth to get liberating truth to replace the imbedded negative belief.

 

 

 

 

Prayer Encounter Components

 

Introduction

Start a session with prayer inviting God's presence, protection and guidance. A time of sharing helps you to find the focus. Be sure to find out what the person wants to change in their life.

 

Declaration of Intent

Have the person state to God what they would like to have cleaned up in their life.

 

Proclamation of who is in charge of the process

Have the person declare that Jesus in charge and that He is Lord, Healer, Savior and Deliverer. Especially do this if the person prays for God to "help" them with their problem.

 

Forgiveness Scene

A.If it is appropriate ask the person to ask God for forgiveness for their part in this problem. (Only if it is clear to them that this would be appropriate.)

B.It may help the person to picture himself or herself with Jesus asking for forgiveness and asking him "Do you forgive me?" Have them notice His response and report this to you. Tell them whenever they put a prayer into picture form to wait for the response and to report to you what is happening.

 

Set the Scene

Translating the stated problem into a picture always helps engage the Healing presence of Jesus. Talk to them about what picture would work for them to put this need into picture form. Have them do it and tell you what happens.

 

Life Transformation - the Consolidation of New Identity

After any inner healing ask them to report on their feelings. Deepen the experience and report of positive feelings. Have positive feelings stated as "I am -----" statements to state the new identity. Ask them what it would be like to life their life with these feelings and this new sense of who they are. Ask them to imagine a day in their life with these feelings. Does this picture come clear and how does it feel? Also picture a week, a month and 3 months with these feelings and this new identity. Have them write down the "I am" statements to review daily and to start each day be imaging what it would be like in this new identity.

 

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