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Even good families can produce paranoia and insanity - if there is family betrayal
Family Betrayal - a family secret
Family Betrayal - implications for insanity and paranoia
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Family betrayal can result in a tendency to insanity - mental health problems. But the Bible promises that the Spirit brings a sound mind - 2 Timothy 1:7.
Family betrayal can result in paranoia - the perception that the world is dangerous. But Jesus is our Good Shepherd and he lays down His life for us.
Family betrayal can result in identity confusion - stuck in one of the family roles - 'good boy,' 'rebel,' 'peacekeeper,' 'invisible' or 'clown.'
Family betrayal can bring on panic attacks - sudden intrusive times of extreme fear. Jesus says: "Peace be with you. My peace I give unto you. Do not let you heart be troubled neither be afraid." (John 16)
Family betrayal can be experienced as depression - as my inner child gives up on the promise of unconditional love. God's great love for us is portrayed in faithfulness to Israel when Israel was not faithful and in Jesus whole life of doing good and healing those oppressed of the devil.
Conclusion: we live in a state of confusion if we don't understand family betrayal. Lets understand it!
Family Betrayal - Why does it drive me crazy?
Insanity is unclear thinking. What if "The Baby" is not encouraged to think for himself? This pattern was encouraged by mother who did not want to be alone so (unconsciously) undermines her youngest child's ability to think for himself and so be independent.
Baby" always asks another to make major decisions for him. He does not want ot take responsibility. He is true to his programming from his mother which (unconsciously) asked him not to grow up.
"I can't do this. I can't think clear." (And I don't want to because it would not please mom for me to think for myself and, therefore, grow up.)
Jesus is able to heal and bring wholeness and sanity but "Baby" is loyal to "Good Mom" and will (loyally) remain a baby all his life.
Why does Family Betrayal lead to Paranoia?
Paranoia is the perception that the world is a dangerous place and I am in danger. What if paranoia involves sensing a significant threat but being unalbe to identify that threat. In my family dad used physical discipline, clear boundaries and consistent policies. This made for security. Mother was an expert at psychological manipulation. She used guilt manipulation like my family used sugar. She seemed to fear the meat and potatoes of clear rules and clear punishment and reward. Repeating her family's pattern she created 'nice boys' and 'nice girls' who learned they needed to perform to be secure in her love.
Child discipline using distancing and guilt are so subltle that a child does not know how they are being molded into a pseudo-person. The threat to real life is considerable. Clarity about the threat is not. In my family the product, the fruit, was a lot of paranoia.
Family Betrayal - break out of Identity Confusion.
One way to do this is to tell Jesus what you need and then physically go through a motion of putting your heart in His care or, in your imagination, picture yourself putting your heart - your physical organ - in His hands.
I know this will make a great difference in your life. What do you feel right now? Email me with what you feel or sense immediately or over time. Email to George
Therapy for a Family Betrayal - finding freedom to trust and love.
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