Premarital Counselling - exploring. learning and preparing for a good relationship
Building a couple relationship of love, trust and respect.
George Hartwell M.Sc. - qualifications, training and experience
George is able to use his skills in therapy to bring healing to four key marital issues. This is an effective component of premarital relationship preparation. Learn conflict resolution skills, establish guidelines and a couple mission statement, understand personality differences, and how to communicate effectively.
"I have received a significant amount of emotional and spiritual freedom. Using the inner healing approach clarified a lot as well as giving me new understanding of my wife. I think I was able to open up for her - make myself vulnerable." Brian D.
"I always thank God for George and how he has helped me and my family. He is able to lead me through my confusion and distractions to an encounter with the Living God in whom there is abundant life and healing! Praise God!" Wendy M.
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More information about George: Family Therapy background:
Supervised experience in family therapy: 1. Alberta Hospital Ponoka, 2. Calgary Guidance Center, 3. Institute of Family Living West and 4. Chartwell Institute of Care and Counselling.
In 1976, I began work as a family therapist with Preventive Social Services in the small town of Athabasca Alberta, 90 miles North of Edmonton. I provided direct counselling of couples and individuals including teens; developed and delivered Parenting Courses, Couple Communication Seminars, and a youth Leadership Camp. In 1981 I worked as a Child Therapist with the west End Crèche, Toronto before establishing my private practice full time.
Agape Christian Counselling - Toronto, Ontario
Q. In your experience, how does
counselling help end an abusive relationship?
Q. What do you do to solve
communication problems in marriages?
Q. How can you help us with a
Q. How can we achieve deeper levels of intimacy?
Q. I don't believe that my partner is the right person for me. I no longer love them. We are not suited. We have become enemies. How will professional counselling make any difference?
A. It is normal in a committed couple relationship to begin to see our partner as our enemy. "If they would change, I would be happy," we think. We are pulled to look for love and understanding elsewhere. We are at risk for adultery.
Before we get in to the promised land of faithful covenant Christian marriage we may encounter giants from our past in what we see and experience in our partner. Issues of great significance from our past do need to be resolved. This is best done with a counsellor who is familiar with healing issues of heart and spirit.
When you are empty inside it may mean that what I call "core issues" need to be dealt with. It may not all be your partner.
When we do not like to admit that we have faults or face our negative possibilities, we tend to blame our partner. Best to take Jesus' advice and take the log out of your own eye. If the "log" is blocking your perspective, then the counselling process can be the least painful of facing it.
In every relationship there are stages to entering into real unity. Scott Peck outlines three steps before we reach unity. That means that it is normal to enter into periods of conflict and power struggle. You are each trying to be right, or set the agenda, or make the other better. Counselling will help if you are willing to face the fact that some of these behaviours are preventing you from reaching community.
Sometimes our partner looks like the worse aspects of our mother or father. This is hard to love. But it is not all your partner's fault. You are more likely to feel pain from behaviour that hurts in the place of unhealed issues. Your own expectation of that this pain will occur also acts upon your partner to bring out of them the very beahviour you hate. They need to take responsibility for their behaviour but you may find that healing up your own wounded heart may help reduce this type of pain in your relationship.
It is inevitable that your partner will remind you of your childhood issues; will seem more and more like your childhood abuser. Guaranteed. Your perceptions, beliefs, feelings and reactions toward your partner are being powerfully shaped by your unresolved childhood issues. You will experience again what you experienced before - until you overcome the enemy within. To it does not all depend on your partner. You can help your marriage by seeking healing for the issues of your heart.
Your partner is in the same process of seeing their worse fears, deepest hurts and unresolved issues being fulfilled in you. Their perception of you, understanding of you, feelings toward you will be deeply and fundamentally based on past experience until "past experience" is dealt with. Professionals who use prayer therapy inner healing will help in this process.
For Sessions with George, Retreats or Phone Counseling: counselling
234-1850 for local calls in Toronto, Mississauga, Oakville
E-mail: e-mail G Hartwell
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